Dating advice for nerds
Hey, guys, Professor Bill of Comic Book University here and I’m going to say a few pretentious things here. I’m talking about dating advice for nerds.
When I was in school I was a pretty popular guy. I was tall, went to the weight room after school daily, I was on the track and field team for shot put, discus, and cross-country, and I never knew what the “friend zone” was. Still, on the down low, when I thought no one was looking, I would go to the comic book store.
Now make no mistake, if a nerd walked into a sports store with a bunch of jocks from school that nerd would get the strangest looks imaginable; that, “you don’t belong here” look. I got that look when I walked into the comic book store.
Finding acceptance among nerds
It actually took a while for any acceptance in comic stores, and hobby shops, too, where I would read the D&D, GURPS, and World of Darkness books (I loved “Hunter: The Reckoning”). Eventually, I would get into a conversation with some of the guys and I started feeling a little like Ogre from “Revenge of the Nerds 2.”
Once I became one with my inner nerd (translation, embraced by this subculture and capable of walking both worlds) I began to hear a very different perspective on girls.
“Girls don’t want a good guy, they just want to be with someone who’s going to treat them like crap.” Really? The way that I’ve always seen it is that if two people want to be with each other, the guy can be honest with the girl and vice versa and they feel comfortable to be both happy and angry with each other, and as long as the good outweighed the bad then what’s the problem? People just had to communicate and work things out. It was healthy.
Nerds seemed to worship the idea of girls. You want to know how to get yourself into the “friend zone?” Worship women – they will friendzone you in a heartbeat.
“Girls aren’t into nerdy culture.” Really? I could talk about comic books with my girlfriends. We could play video games, we could play Laser Tag (I grew up in the ’80s, bite me). Girls love nerdy things.
“Girls only want to be with jocks.” Dude, is Justin Bieber a jock? Girls are into jocks and “pretty-boys” alike. I was neither; girls dug me, too. You know why? Because girls dig confidence. Why would a woman want to be with someone who doesn’t believe in himself? I’ve heard nerds say that, if a woman would just believe in him then he would attain greatness, or some other nonsense like that; I laughed.
Dating advice: what it takes
Dude, no one wants to be with a half a human. Guys don’t want to be with a woman with “baggage” any more than a woman wants to be with a guy with baggage. It’s too much work. If you don’t believe in yourself then why should anyone ever believe in you? That holds true in job interviews, too.
Being able to hang out with these guys and talk comics and hang out in their basements and play Dungeons & Dragons was great, but that’s not how you get a girl.
The same advice I offered then holds true today, I would never have come into anyone’s basement to play D&D with people I didn’t know, there had to be conversation first. These guys basically expected to stand at their basement entrances and call girls to come in “for a good time.”
It’s creepy when you think about it that way, right?
“Getting girls” as we called it when we were kids, is no different than making friends. I mean, it took forever for me to be accepted into nerdy circles, imagine how difficult it is for a lady?
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